Picture it. A cafe in Auckland CBD. Two business owners sitting at a table having a coffee and a discussion.
Jack: “Thank you so much for meeting me today, Simon. I know you are a busy man, so I appreciate it.”
Simon: “My pleasure Jack, happy to meet with you!”
*sound of a cellphone ringing*
Jack: “My apologies Simon, I need to take this call.”
Simon: “Sure”
*5 minutes later and after the interrupting call – ping – sound of a message coming through*
Jack: “Sorry Simon, I need to check this message”
Simon: “Sure”
And so it goes on.
Dare I say a common scenario you might have experienced a few times before? Such regular behaviour that it becomes a norm. Sad.
Why have we let the lack of presence become a norm in how we engage with each other? Why is this unacceptable behaviour exhibited by Jack, deemed acceptable?
Yes, we are busy and have a lot on our plates, juggling many tasks, home life and work, I get it. But, the lack of presence at any given time creates a few issues for us:
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We overwhelm ourselves with too many tasks and activities. We land up being a “Jack” of all trades and master of nothing.
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Due to the overwhelm we aren’t able to clearly hear the person, or actually take in what they are truely saying. We miss out on essential information, because we are distracted.
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It’s not a good look – not giving someone your full attention is sending a message. Not a subtle one, but a loud message. “You are not important to me!” Who wants to do business with someone who thinks less of them, by treating them in this way? Not me.
- We have to re-visit the meeting or engagement, due to not been present. This just wastes time and energy, creating a vicious circle.
- Constantly thinking about the future and being distracted by the “to-do” list – causes mental fatigue and can negatively affect your mental health. Focusing on the present moment, being mindful, helps to quiet the mind and allows for deeper more meaningful engagements.
Instead of constantly thinking about what must happen in the future, try being in the present. It’s a great place to be.
Nicole is a certified professional coach as well as a certified trainer, advanced assessor and coach mentor. Based in Auckland, she provides a range of coaching options, from individual business owner and management coaching, group and team coaching workshops to personal coaching. Her coaching practice is aligned to the ICF ethos and ethics. Need to hire a professional coach? Contact Nicole [email protected]
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